My Journey to Joy

April 30, 2014

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“We stand on the edge of our cliff-like emotions looking into the deep cavern of our grief, and we’re sure that the jump will kill us.  For those of us who entrust our feeble selves to our faithful Creator, in way I can neither explain nor describe, it doesn’t.  In Jesus, when death of some kind comes and we are willing to take it to the cross, remain nearby, and suffer its grief, we will also experience the resurrection.
We say, ‘But part of me has died with it.’  And indeed it has.  Hear the words of Christ echo from the grave: ‘I tell you the truth, unless a kernel of wheat falls to the ground and dies, it remains only a single seed.  But if it dies, it produces many seeds.’ (John 12:24)  As a child bearing the name of Christ, if a part of you has died, in time it was meant to produce many seeds…Oh, Beloved, don’t give up!”
The Beloved Disciple, Beth Moore


June 20, 2013

A Letter from Dad

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May 21, 2013

Songs for the Journey- Everything to Me

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An amazing song…


…and the story behind it!

March 20, 2013

She Chose Life

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Every adoption story has one thing in common: It began with a birthmother.

…Laura Davis is one of Lifeline’s Birthmother Counselors.  Her husband was adopted internationally in 1986.  His parents received little information about his birthmother-just some minimal health facts, a few physical descriptors, and one document translated into broken English.  It contained a bit of personal information, but was barely complete.  There was one line that was translated and gave insight as to why she wanted to place him with an adoptive family.  It read, “I want him go to America.  Have full love and complete life.”

Some adoptive families have little history about a birthmother.  Others are blessed to have participated in an open adoption that provided an abundance of information.  Whether a family knows the details of the birthmother in their story, or long to know about her-there is a common thread that is woven into the tapestry of adoption: each adoptee’s story began with a woman who chose life.

She chose life– Through difficult circumstances, judgment from others, and maybe without support around her, she chose to carry a child to give that child life.  “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.  I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”  Psalm 139:13-14

What an amazing and brave choice to make!  Access to abortion services and other alternatives to end pregnancy are readily available and generally more obtainable than affordable prenatal care.  So, why did she choose life?  Through all of her reasoning, one simple truth remains: “‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.'” Jeremiah 29:11

She chose life, and God chose His people– God has a purpose.  Whether the birthmother has a personal relationship with the Lord or not, He is the One that moves hearts to choose life.  Then God chooses His people to be mothers and fathers.  He equips, entrusts and blesses families with children to disciple in His ways and His truth.

They choose love– Families love their children, and they love the birthmother of their story.  They lift her up in prayer.  They answer questions about her with honesty.  They share their adoption story with others and speak with the utmost respect of this woman’s choice to place a child.  And most importantly they pray for her salvation!  They seek the Lord on her behalf and cling to the hope that one day they will meet in heaven and thank her for choosing life.


From Coming Home, First Quarter 2013, the Lifeline Children’s Services newsletter


February 7, 2013

1 Year

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This Saturday my baby turns one year old!  I really can’t believe it.  I look through pictures and wonder “where did that chubby, cuddly baby go?!”  Little man has decided to start walking this week.  I’m caught somewhere between being crazy-proud of him, and nostalgic that it’s going by so quickly.

I’ve been reading his birthmom’s bio today.  Wondering how long she spent answering all of those questions!  And being thankful that she did.  We haven’t met yet, but those sheets of paper give me a little window into seeing who she is.  I want to protect her privacy, but I really wish I could share with you what an amazing person she is!  I wish I could tell you what little I know of what she’s like.  I guess “pretty awesome” will have to do.  (That’s my description of her, anyway!)  I think it’s so cool to see what we have in common in personality, preferences, and even physical characteristics.  I hope someday we can become friends.

I’ve been reading the files from the hospital, too.  Thanking God again for how He had his hand on my baby, before I knew he even existed.  Soaking up little details that I only know from those records.  So thankful to have this piece of my boy’s history to share with him as he grows.

I have a party planned for Saturday.  I’ve been planning it for months.  I’ve scoured Pinterest, bought supplies, borrowed cake pans and stuffed animals, purchased gifts, ordered a custom t-shirt, planned a fun menu, and generally had a blast.  Saturday we’ll celebrate our precious gift from God. 

But my heart is breaking, too.  Will you pray with me for our birthmom?  I can only imagine what Saturday will feel like for her.  I’m praying that she will feel an absolute certainty that she made the right choice for her son.  I’m praying that God will comfort her heart, and surround her with friends and family.  I’m praying that she knows, really knows, how much we love her boy, and how grateful we are that she chose adoption.  I’m praying that she knows we love her, and that she is so special to us.  Most of all, I’m praying that she knows how much God loves her.

How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God!   I John 3:1a

February 1, 2012

Because She Chose Life…

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September 28, 2011

dead things

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by Valorie Bender Quesenberry

God works in a mysterious way.  That’s a line from the old song by William Cowper.The divine operates so much differently than the human.  If it were me, I would fix things before they worsened.  But God does His work on a scale that we don’t usually understand.

He specializes in bringing life to dead things – dry bones, Joseph’s dreams, Sarah’s womb, Abraham’s hopes, Lazarus.  What we believe is impossible is the beginning of His greatest work. Where there is no spark of life remaining, He creates vitality and abundance.

Look at the unrelenting faith of Abraham in the presence of death:

And not being weak in faith, he did not consider his own body, already dead (since he was about a hundred years old), and the deadness of Sarah’s womb. He did not waver at the promise of God through unbelief, but was strengthened in faith, giving glory to God and being fully convinced that what He had promised He was also able to perform. (Romans 4:19-21)

Abraham’s body was dead, so to speak, and Sarah’s womb was dead (in regard to childbearing). But that was what God was waiting for.

Lazarus was dead, physically dead, for four days. But that’s when Jesus chose to work.

What is dead in your life?  A relationship? Dreams? Ministry? Hope?

Deadness is of no consequence to God.  He is the Giver of life.  Bring your grief and loss to Him.  Surrender your plan of action. Trust His good will.  Wait on Him.  And watch for His mysterious, life-giving work in you.

“God . . . gives life to the dead and calls those things which do not exist as though they did.”
(Romans 4:17b)

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