My Journey to Joy

December 1, 2011

Letter to Birthmom

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Dear Birthmom,

I’ve thought a lot about what to write in this letter.  We don’t know you (yet!), but our lives may soon be connected forever through our mutual love of a little baby.  So, what to write?
First of all, we want you to know that we have been praying for you for a long time.  We’re assured that God knows every detail of your life, and we’re asking Him to bless you.  We realize that you may not choose us to parent your baby, but we want you to know that that doesn’t change our prayer for your life, that God will give you a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11).
God has been teaching us so many things during the past few years.  We’ve come to a new level of accepting His will for our lives, instead of choosing our own path.  God put a love for adoption in my (Holly’s) heart many years ago.  I always wondered why, since it didn’t seem likely for our family.  Daniel & I talked many times about the tug that I felt; it would be several years before he felt the same way.  God used our infertility to open Daniel’s heart to adoption.  I didn’t understand then, but God was working things out in His perfect timing to bring us to this place.
Daniel & I are far from perfect.  We’ve done everything we can to prepare our home and our hearts for whatever child God sends us.  We’ve read books, talked about parenting, and made all the plans and provisions we can think of…but we know we’ll mess up sometimes.  We can’t promise never to make any mistakes, but we would like to make a commitment to you:

We will do everything in our power to raise any children that God blesses us with to serve Him. 

We will work hard to provide for every physical, emotional, and spiritual need.
We will give our unconditional love, no matter what.

We would love to have a relationship with you, as well.  We believe that a child can’t have too many people to love him/her!  We understand if you are not comfortable with this idea, and will respect your wishes.  We don’t ever wish to invade your privacy, or hurt you in any way.  But we hope you’ll want to know us too!
We’re praying for you, as you make these difficult life-decisions.  We believe that God will be faithful to guide you as you ask for His help.
We love you,

Daniel & Holly

Please join us in praying for our birthmother.  I can hardly imagine what these women are facing.  We would love to see our birthmother saved, if she isn’t already.  Many of these women don’t have families who pray for them; let’s stand in the gap!  I have such confidence in your prayers, and the God who hears them…



  1. So wonderful how God works. I’ve felt for over a month now a peculiar desire toward your birthmom. A desire to pray for her, a heart that feels the pain & difficulties she faces, and the desire that she make it to heaven. What an awesome God we serve Who can take such bitter things even wrong things and make them so sweet and right!! ~Mom

    Comment by Sue Fleming — December 1, 2011 @ 8:43 AM | Reply

  2. Ok, first of all, this letter to the birthmom made my eyes leak as Stacie used to say. I have often thought of Lauren’s birthmom and how strong she had to be to be able to give up our beautiful Lauren, I also pray for her as well.
    I agree with your Mom, we do serve an awesome God that can take such a painful experience in one person’s life and make someone elses life so blessed. I am so happy you are sharing this blog with others too. This experience is one of the most crazy, emotional rollercoaster, blessed experiences you will ever experience in your life and you will be blessed with the most important gift anyone can ever give you. You and Daniel will be wonderful parents, this baby will be raised in a God loving, family loving home and that is so important. He/she will never doubt for a second the he/she is loved by so many. I will also pray for the birthmom, it would have to take a very strong, unselfish person to be able to do what she is doing. Love you sweet girl!

    Comment by Sarah — December 6, 2011 @ 10:39 AM | Reply

    • You made my eyes leak! Thanks for all of your encouragement; love you!

      Comment by aunthoddy — December 6, 2011 @ 4:35 PM | Reply

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